Apr. 16th, 2009 09:50 pm
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Once again I realise I'm completely alone in my life and doing nothing about it. I can see why I'm not doing anything about it, it's because I'm scared. Scared of the unknown, scared of being active on my own. I need to get out and about more often.

Suggestions and invites welcome.
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I hope you all have a very Merry Solstice, or whatever other celebration you're celebrating at this time of year, and a happy new year.

I also wish to thank the people who commented on my last post. The gems of reassurance have been appreciated, especially now I've come up with a 4th option:
d) ignored.
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Well that was stupid in it's own little way. It's worth noting here that I've just sent a text that will either be
a) One of the biggest regrets of my life
b) A very good move
or c) To the wrong person (This option generated from the possibility that a number I've not used in 18 months may have been abandoned)

Hopefully, I'll find out soon enough.


Nov. 9th, 2008 10:59 am
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Stolen from [ profile] kaliopae

Your result for The Lover Style Profile Test...

The Classic Lover

50% partner focus, 24% aggressiveness, 35% adventurousness

Based on the results of this test, it is highly likely that:

You prefer your romance and love to be traditional rather than daring or out-of-the-ordinary, you would rather be pursued than do the pursuing and, when it comes to physical love, you concentrate more on enjoying the experience rather than worrying about your performance.

This places you in the Lover Style of: The Classic Lover.

The Classic Lover is a wonderful Lover Style, and is the closest it comes to the classic images of the princess in the tower, or the romantic and chivalrous knight, or the hero/heroine from a Disney film. The Classic Lover is a treasure to find, though it can be difficult to do so because they sometimes tend to be shy and/or difficult to successfully court.

In terms of physical love, the Classic Lover again can be shy, and often needs more in terms of emotional security to feel comfortable than some of the other Types. Given the right setting, and the right lover, the Classic Lover can be a delight in bed.

Best Compatibility can probably be found with: The Romantic Lover (most of all) or the Devoted Lover, or the Liberated Lover.


If you enjoyed this test, I would love the feedback! Also, you might want to check out some of my other tests if you're interested in the following:

Nerds, Geeks & Dorks

Professional Wrestling

Buffy the Vampire Slayer



Take The Lover Style Profile Test at HelloQuizzy

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I say, I say, I say. While I've not been strictly keeping to my schedule for NaBloPoMo, I didn't really expect to. It has however continued to provide me with thoughts on what I could update with, and has inspired this post.

Right, so, friendship developments. Yes, I has friends. You may not believe that I have trouble with friendships, to look at me. I'm quite often outspoken, organising, and or noisy. But it's a very nice front to maintain for someone who's actually fairly cautious, shy and easily spooked. I dislike the uncontrollable unknown. There are controlled unknowns, which is where I have some idea of either the content or the scope of what I'm exploring, and there are uncontrolled unknowns, which is when I have no idea what I'm getting myself into. The former is about the limit of what I can manage.

So, I will go out with friends, and I will push for things. I will push with people I know, into situations that don't directly involve me getting into conflict or contact with people I don't. What you won't normally see me doing (some times, just occasionally I pluck up the courage and do do this) is pushing myself into a situation where I have to get to know new people. Scares me.

This means that I tend to make friends through other friends. I get to know people because I already know someone in common on both sides. This is a safe exploration for me, because I am normally confident of the sort of people each of my friends will introduce me to. [ profile] flannelcat and [ profile] penguin_worship will introduce me to LARPers, James will introduce me to people in the acting world, through other friends I occasionally get to know new programmers and computer geeks. In this way, my world grows.

My dislike of pushing into situations with people I don't know in any way is one reason I dislike jobs involving telephones. Calling or being called by someone that I have little to no idea who they are comes into the same category as above. I'm slowly getting better at it over the years, but I still refuse to take a job where it's a serious part of the job spec. I'd much rather have to meet the person face to face than talk down a telephone.

Luckily for me, this odd fear isn't so pronounced over email. I can and have fielded emails from exactly the sorts of people I don't like over the phone. The nice thing about email is I can sit down and plan what I'm going to say, reword it, delete bits, and pause and think half way through. This is also true of forums and my blog, and a reason I like both formats. However, from email, I've normally been on the receiving end of it. I don't have to initiate the contact, someone has done that for me. On occasion, initiating the contact can be so very, very hard.

So, the point of this post. Received a reply back from a message I sent over OkCupid. Writing it was hard. One of the harder things I've had to do recently. Waiting for the reply was tough, but not overly so.

Getting the eventual reply: relief.

It's such a small step. The outgoing email was basically "hi". But it was still difficult for me, and I hope you now have a better understanding of why.

I also hope my dear readers have learnt something about me from this entry.


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